From Meltdowns to Growth: Facing Life Outside Our Comfort Zone
Vol. 1, No. 43
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Last weekend was one of those weekends where our calendar was packed to the brim. In addition to our regular routine, we had three birthday parties on the schedule.
Both of my kids were in full meltdown mode by the third party. They cried about having to take their shoes off at the door, and once inside, they sat against the wall, refusing to participate in any of the activities or games. My husband and I left there feeling like we were failing as parents and seriously frustrated at their behavior. It was tough to watch all of the other kids play and have fun while ours refused.
On Sunday, we decided to try a new church. We’ve talked about going and backed out several times already. My stomach became a ball of nerves the second I stepped out of the car.
Where was the entrance? What was the childcare situation?
What would the service be like? What if no one talks to us?
The lack of information going into this unfamiliar environment threw me off balance. Before we even stepped foot in the door, I wanted to turn around and drive back home.
As we walked through the parking lot, I felt a wave of compassion for my oldest son. He had been feeling similarly anxious all weekend, but didn’t have the words to express his emotions.
We had dragged him from one party to the next, with little to no information about what to expect once we got there. We’d load him in the car, tell him we were going to see his friends and eat cake, and expect him to smile and participate.
But my oldest son is so much like me. We want to have as much information as possible ahead of time so that we’re prepared for any situation we’ll encounter.
Knowing what to expect makes us feel confident, but feeling out of our element makes us retreat inward.
I’ll check Google Maps before going somewhere to know what the parking situation will be like, or read through a menu before going out to eat to have an idea of what I’ll order.
Some of this stems from anxiety, and having information ahead of time helps me feel in control (or at least think I am).
Despite all my fears, the church service was excellent. We unknowingly walked in the back door, but one of the pastors showed us around and helped us get acquainted. The service was welcoming, and we felt a sense of community. Afterward, I left feeling more confident in our ability to handle anything new that might come our way as a family.
If you’re feeling nervous this week about facing an unknown situation, know that you’re not alone. We’ve all been there.
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📖 If you’re even the least bit interested in history, I highly recommend Sharon McMahon’s book The Small and The Mighty. It’s a fascinating read filled with the stories of people who shaped our country, but who we didn’t hear much about in history class.
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Happy Friday, Friends! I am SO thankful for this Modern Motherhood community!
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