The Simple Practice of Seeing the Good
Vol. 1, No. 45
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The other day, I caught my four-year-old telling his little brother, “Wow, Henry! That’s really beautiful.” My younger son had managed to paint a blue masterpiece on a Paw Patrol coloring book, and the pride in his brother’s voice was unmistakable. My heart swelled as I watched them cheer each other on with genuine enthusiasm.
In that moment, it struck me how naturally children see the best in others. They’re not jaded by the world yet. They haven’t learned to withhold praise or to fixate on flaws. They just notice the good and speak it out loud.
It made me wonder: When did I stop doing that?
As adults, it’s so easy to focus on what’s not working—the messy house, the missed deadlines, the moments when we fall short. That critical lens creeps into how we see others, too: the partner who forgot the trash again, the friend who hasn’t checked in, the stranger who didn’t hold the door. But watching my son celebrate something as simple as his brother’s coloring reminded me of the power in noticing the good.
Kids don’t second-guess their compliments or hesitate to share what’s on their minds. “Mama, I love you,” my two-year-old will announce, completely unprompted, while I’m standing in the kitchen wearing a sweatshirt with my hair in a messy bun. I used to laugh those moments off, brushing them aside as fleeting toddler sweetness. But lately, I’ve been trying to stop and let those words really sink in.
If they can see the best in me—even when I’m not at my best—why can’t I try to see it, too?
This lesson extends beyond how we see ourselves. It’s also about how we treat others. How often do we take the time to compliment a friend on their strength or tell a coworker they handled a tough situation well? How often do we pause to appreciate what someone is doing right instead of what they could do better?
I’m learning that seeing the best in others doesn’t mean ignoring their flaws or pretending challenges don’t exist. It’s about leading with kindness, choosing to shine a light on the good. My son’s simple, joyful encouragement reminded me that our words carry so much weight. A small, heartfelt comment can brighten someone’s day—or even change the way they see themselves.
This week, I’ve been trying to adopt my kids’ perspective. When I catch myself criticizing my own efforts, I pause and celebrate the wins—like making my boys laugh during breakfast or successfully packing for our holiday road trip. When I feel frustrated with someone else, I try to name something good about them instead.
What I’m finding is that this practice doesn’t just benefit those around me—it’s changing me, too. By choosing to see the best in myself and others, I’m moving through my days with a little more patience, joy, and grace.
Kids have a way of reminding us of life’s simplest truths. And right now, my sons are teaching me one of the most important lessons of all: The good is always there if you’re willing to look for it.
📕 Our youngest son asks to read Night Night Truck every night before bed. It’s super sweet, and the moon and stars glow in the dark!
🧼 This shower oil has been saving my skin this winter. I was worried it would be slippery, but it lathers up so nicely and washes off while leaving your skin moisturized.
🧀 I’m back with my love of Halloumi! This appetizer with halloumi, pistachios, and honey is easy and perfect for the holiday season!
Happy Friday, Friends! This Thanksgiving, I am especially thankful for this community of moms!
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